As
we take inventory on the year that has just left us and declare personal
resolutions for the New Year, let us not forget to be forgiving, especially to
ourselves. January 2009
President’s Podium
As
we take inventory on the year that has just left us and declare personal
resolutions for the New Year, let us not forget to be forgiving, especially to
ourselves.
Why is it that we find it easy and necessary to point out our mistakes, causing us to move forward with windless sails and regrets? When doing this we set ourselves up for failure and probably won’t be successful in keeping any resolutions. The leaves we just “turned over” end up blowing away in the wind. What we could try is this: making a resolution to begin practicing the exercise of self affirmation, commending ourselves for the many, many things done right.
As a retail manager for many years, I’d get more out of my employees when positively affirming the things they did well then when I offered a quick, thoughtless criticism for a mistake they inadvertently made. I’ve realized the same goes for me which is why I’ve decided to be kinder to myself this year. I want to break the habit of negative speech, needless anxiety and counterproductive rumination. I want to eliminate the things I tend to do to myself; things that many of us mothers tend to do to ourselves that end up sabotaging the success we wish to attain.
As parents of twins and triplets, we’ve got double and triple the challenges of many other families. Stopping for lengths of time to examine each snafu never serves too much good. In fact, that practice can sometimes prevent us from moving forward. At this month’s Hot Cocoa Social we will re-launch the “Question and Answer” segment of our general meetings so as to share our daily challenges with one other as we listen to fellow members offer solutions that have worked in their homes. Bring your challenges, questions and concerns to the rest of us and partake in what is expected to be a productive and lively discussion.
We are doing the best we can with what we have. And we are seeking support and guidance from each other which is a commendable thing in and of itself. Let’s remember that all things in our lives, BOTH our triumphs and our catastrophes end up forming who we are, and where we are, right now, today. Learning from our difficulties and forgiving ourselves of shortcomings has the power to bring us to a place of peace & happiness. And we all know that when “mama’s happy – everybody’s happy”. Everyone in the house will benefit from our resolution of positiveness. Shall we make it together?
May this year bring you and your families, health & happiness and a new found love and appreciation for your own spirit.
Peace, Love & Twins,
Mary Grace Roach
President, NCMOTC